Can I Ignore These Flaws?

You’ve been in this relationship for quite sometime and you’re closely getting to the point of saying… “I DO”

However, within you is an alarm so loud that you keep snoozing it.

You know he lies.

You know he cheats.

You know she’s rude.

You know she’s so materialistic.

She get’s angry easily.

But you can’t even imagine letting go because you love him/ her soooo much.

He has other great qualities of being caring, nice and supportive.

She has other great qualities of being purpose driven and quite intelligent.

The question is…

Imagine if you can live forever with these flaws.

Imagine that those things will get doubled in frequency when married.

Will you still be happy with your choice?

There are flaws and there are flaws.

You can have a way around some.

You can’t just ignore some.

It’s like you having a big dream of becoming a top Politician but your guy just desires that he opens up a supermarket for you so you could be closer to the children.

It’s like a man that thrives in brainstorming sessions and critical thinking to birth inventions outside the box but wrapped in the arms of a lady that 90% of her interactions with you is who is wearing what and who is driving that.

You should spell out your values.

Can I thrive and be happy despite these flaws while you imagine the worst case scenario?

What have you discovered about your guy/ lady that you’re wondering if you can overlook?

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You Can Get It Right!

Is your head filled with gory sights and images of the evils “marriage” has to offer?

Are you a single lady/ guy living in constant fear that you might make a mistake in your choice of a life partner or get added to the statistics of those killed by their spouses?

You need not fear!

I’m here to guide you into choosing your custom made man/ woman.

Always remember that romantic and beautiful marriages abound. You don’t just hear about them because they have no sour tale to tell!
They are busy enjoying their choice!

Are you Single?

What’s your greatest fear about marriage?

Let me know your thoughts.

Does Your Child Know You?

When you look at your Children, what comes to your mind?

Are you satisfied with how you bring them up daily?

Are you proud of yourself as a mother?

What can your Children point to as what they’ve learnt from you over the years?

I hope you know that this is their formative years and by age 7, a child has already developed and formed his/ her personality. The Character, identity and self esteem is already getting concrete.

This should tell you that Parenting is not something that should be pegged for kick off at a later time or when you’re comfortable and have time to kick start it.

The moment you leave the hospital with that baby alive, is the moment your motherhood tag is worn and you are expected to help that child navigate this complex world full of ” confusion”!

Look at yourself again…

Can you say that you are really nurturing great and secure Children that can stand on their own when you are not there with them in school or anywhere they find themselves?

Are you aware that your little kids as small as 3 can be facing bullying in school and from their peers?

I recommend you buy Bantu, the big fat bully by @temifrancisadeshina of readland ng.

When my Children started relaying their experiences on the school bus and in school, I just concluded without doubts and a high sense of duty that motherhood and Parenting is definitely beyond having their bath, getting them neatly dressed, packing their lunch boxes and sending them to the most expensive schools.

The question is… Are you dressing their souls? How well does your Child’s soul know you?

So taking it a step deeper… you’d agree with me that no matter the morals you teach your Children, they could still lack the power to put them to work when faced with the storms of life.

One day, I heard my little daughters discussing. The younger asked… ” why do we do bad”? I want to do good but I just do bad. The elder replied…” we are born into sin”.

As a mum, what do you tell them at this point? What do you know that you can transfer to them?

This tells you that they have lot’s of questions on their minds and you should be ready and on hand to give them the right answers before another person does.

You don’t want to imagine the level of conversations that go on with their peers in school. If you’re a mum that listens to your Children’s experience at school when they come back home or you’re attentive to their discussions, you’d be shocked at different times on what their peers teach them!

My Children don’t listen to silly songs but their peers teach them in school and even have break time to teach them some funny dance steps. There must be a spring in your Children installed by you that can bounce off what is not right that is about to be installed!

As a mum, what do you do at that point? Also remember that question time for your children are times you should seize and utilize to pitch your teaching sessions. You might never have a perfect time to teach them.

Mum, You need to go beyond being relevant to your child on the outside to touching the core of his being. That is where the switch of life is located. That is the source of his eventual joy, sustainance and fulfilment in life!

So… what are your children’s spiritual temperature like?

What do they know about God?

What scriptures are in their memory that can spring up when they are faced with the realities of life?

It’s time we get to work. YOU and I like never before. Remember… Parenting is DELIBERATE! It won’t jump on you. You can’t pray it to happen neither can you wish it. You need to work it and the time is NOW!

If you do nothing about this post, you’re only postponing the needful which will still remain undone. You can’t close youre eyes to the dirty plates in the kitchen when you know you don’t have anybody to help you out. The dirty plates will remain UNTIL you decide to wash them!

Are you aware of what God is saying about how he wants us to teach our children in his words?

He wants us to…

1. Write and paste his words around the house, on their doors, their wardrobes and anywhere their eyes can grab it. More like a vision board in words and scriptures.

2. He’d even love them to have wristbands that talk about his word.

3. He wants you to have his word full in your heart that you talk and teach them about it at the slightest oppourtunity when you wake up, sit down, talk, go out, about to sleep and everything that revolves around you.

Check Deuteronomy 6:5-11.

Also remember at this point that you can’t give what you don’t have. It’s the word of God that dwells richly in you that can be taught! It’s called an overflow!

In conclusion, can you just decide today if you have not been doing this?

Think about how hard it is to bend a iron.

We know that we are also told to train them now that they are young and malleable. A time is coming and fast approaching as each day passes when they are fully FORMED and it becomes difficult to amend.

It’s better you sew this “dress” using the right measurement from the beginning than having to loosen it up and taking it though the needle again.

Here…

1. Schedule a particular time to teach your Children good morals rooted in scriptures.

2. Ensure they always have times of reading the bible and other educative books.

3. Paste colourful pictures and scriptures they can memorize in their bedrooms, toilets and strategic places in the house.

4. Utilize every opporutunity they ask questions or anytime you’re alone with them.

5. Get good games that teach them the word of God on their Ipads.

Remember… YOU ARE YOUR CHILD’S FIRST ROLE MODEL!

A Father that is not “spiritual” is “excusable” but a Mum that is not spiritual is not excusable BECAUSE mommies spend more time with the Children than they do with Dad.

Dear Mum, It’s time to WAKE UP and put on the badge of a teacher and of motherhood.

Cheers to healthier and balanced Children.

Bukola Adeolu-‘Dele

Your Relationship & Family Life Coach.

CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

So my little daughter started crying so seriously. It was so bad but I was determined not to heed to her request. She wanted a particular brand of biscuit and because she had eaten the same brand and another one, I told her she has to accept the fact that she can’t have it.(despite the fact that I could go and buy it)

She cried and cried but that cry did not make me pity her, rather I thought of the fact that next time I can’t buy that brand and we are possibly outside, she might “disgrace” me in public. She needs to know that she can’t always have all that she wants.

After a while when I couldn’t bear that noise anymore, I called her to my side, hugged her and told her why she couldn’t have it now. She soon stopped crying, got engrossed in other things and then slept off.

When I went out to get other things, I decided to buy it for her, not because she was crying this time but because i just wanted to give it to her. I left it on the table for her to eat whenever she wakes up.

Then my muse spoke…

God has everything we desire and we’d ever need in this life! He can give everything to us physically in a moment if he wants to.

However…

Some of us are living everyday murmuring, complaining, bitter and ungrateful because of our desires. We are so blinded by what we need that we refuse to appreciate what we have already.

Sometimes you might be wondering why it’s taking so long for you to have that thing you desire, it might just be your attitude, disposition and mindset that is postponing the delivery of your desire.

God does not like murmuring.

1Cor10:10
‘Neither murmur ye, as some of them also murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer.”

Phill 2:14
“Do all things without murmurings and disputings:”

Note that she possibly forgot about the biscuit or let it go and then slept. When we let something’s go, it becomes a ticket for our desires.

You must have heard or experienced situations where people desiring a spouse or a child decided to “forget’ about it while they pursue other aspects of their lives with thanksgiving. Most times, God interrupts them when they are no longer worried about it and they just see the fulfilment of their desires.

What is that thing you desire?
God needs to get you to a state where you are no longer worried, sad or complaining about it while you’re totally “asleep” and at rest knowing that he that is faithful to make you wake up every morning can still make you experience your desire.

What’s next?
Get the praise on.
Be joyful.
Be thankful for what you have now and where you are.
Be grateful.
Quit murmuring.
Rest in Him.
Let it go and Let go.

YOU WILL HANDLE YOUR DESIRES IN JESUS NAME AND IT WON’T BE LATE!

CHEER UP?

There’s a way God works and if you understand it to an extent, you’d find courage, hope and faith to keep on till you see that change you desire on that issue!

They cried out aloud, and cut themselves with knives till blood gushed out.
They called on their god throughout the day but there was no answer!

THE POINT IS… they had all the hours to display.
# Prophets of Baal.

BUT…

When Elijah came on the scene, the word of God says that he repaired the altar and put the wood in order!

THE POINT IS… When all was in place, God showed up with fire!

Note 2 strong points!

1.   The enemy will throw all manner of challenges before you and it seems it’s taking all day and you’re consistently being messed up by these challenges. It doesn’t mean they are winning, they are just trying different strategies to destroy you.

BUT..

How can you compare a god that sleeps to a GOD that does not sleep?

(God is not asleep on your case)

2.   God will always arise when you’ve placed the wood in order! The wood can be likened to the word of God!
Note that Elijah repaired the altar and then placed the wood in order.

Go back and restore your relationship with God. This is not the time to draw back but to get closer. Regardless of your flaws, repair that broken relationship as you get back on your knees in worship and in prayers.

Get relevant scriptures ( the wood) and reason out with him with the content of your prayers.

It won’t take time, FIRE WILL COME DOWN and lick up every seemingly stubborn and long standing challenges on your way including all the attendant mess it has cost you!

Remember that the fire of the Lord fell and consumed the burnt sacrifice, and the wood, and the stones, and the dust, and licked up the water that was in the trench?

The spirit of God will lick up all traces of your troubles that you’d know of a truth that HE IS GOD!

How can you explain a woman that started this year with possibly less than 100k in her account but ends up a multi millionaire before the year runs out?

Traces of poverty will leave in no time!

What’s the Conclusion of the matter?
A change is definitely the end point regardless of all that is thrown at you now but you have a daring responsibility to call your challenges to fight presenting your strong reasons from the word of God in prayers.

YOUR VICTORY IS SURE!!!

Reference: 1Kings18

# thewordworks
# theresanend
# expectations
# challenges
# fightoffaith
# hope
# victory

  – Bukola Adeolu-‘Dele

FILL IN THE GAP

Dear MARRIED,

FILL IN THE GAP

It’s a Friday evening and a lot of things were being done into the night.
The children had woken up in  between,were active and sat to watch a cartoon.
I had to do laundry for the baby and couldn’t leave it till the next morning so I was on top of it as “distraction” from the children were near gone.

Hubby had slept off on the sofa after a long day at work.

By the time I was through, the children were still watching the cartoon as at 12 midnight! So, I switched off the television and went to tuck them in bed.
I also woke up hubby to go to bed as he sleepily went to sleep again.

I went to turn off the generator with all lights off  and made sure all doors and padlocks were locked and then straight to bed.

As I reflected on those few hours of the night thanking God and committing the night rest into his hands, the thoughts came rushing in from my muse…

Imagine you deciding not to tuck the children in the bed, allowing them to do a vigil on a  cartoon,  leaving your hubby to sleep in the living room with the generator running (the rule in my close is for all generators to be off by 12), there are different possible  fallouts that can take place as a result of that.
You could have further said that it’s a man’s job to switch off the generator, lights and ensure the whole house is under lock and key.

BUT
YOU FILLED IN THE GAP!

Dear Married,
Your partner might not necessarily be sleeping physically but sleeping on  his roles and other responsibilities due to one thing or the other.
You might complain much as you want to but what do you do if there’s no response?

YOU’RE TO FILL IN THE GAP!

There are roles you can do something about, so if you know it is within your power to fill in, please do so!
You don’t wait until your partner rises to the occasion when it’s obvious that inactions in those areas will affect both of you and the children.

Dear Married,
Fill up the gaps and don’t leave the dashes.

That…
IS WISDOM for building.

-Love Thrives With Understanding.

Love thrives with understanding.

LADIES, BE WISE!!!

(True Story but edited )

Tony and Susan have been seeing each other for about 2 years now. Their relationship seemed to be a perfect one. They had  SEX as often as they saw and there was little or nothing they were keeping back. After all,  if person don  see your nakedness,  wetin remain?

Susan had aborted thrice for Tony and was seriously warned by the Doctor the last time so she was determined to keep swallowing the pills and doing all that she could  to make sure she wasn’t pregnant.

Tony on the other hand had no single pill to swallow of course. All he needed was to satisfy his urges, provide the money and they were good to go.

Hmm. …..

Susan was to have lectures the following morning but had to drag herself out of bed. She felt dizzy and funny. She knew how she always felt when pregnancy came calling and so she went for a test.

The cry of a baby is what will be heard in 9months if nothing is done about this she heard clearly in her head! Susan took a drop straight  to Tonys house and there she told him… “We are expecting our fourth baby and I’M NOT GOING TO ABORT THIS TIME”

“What do you mean by fourth baby” Tony replied.
“Oh, so you don’t know you’ve actually being a father 3 times” Susan said.

“My lecturer explains SEX , abortion and how it plays out for us anytime we have her class and seeing her paint the pictures on that white board, I’m  scared my womb might be damaged..,”

Tony almost bursted out in a rage and about to question her on the use of contraceptives and all when he quickly got  a check in his head…

“Pretend you are happy with the pregnancy”

“Oh beautiful. Nothing to worry about. You’ve tried and I guess we just have to keep this one now and start planning our marriage immediately”

Wow! Marriage? Susan couldn’t hide her excitement.
“I’m  surprised you’re accepting just like that Tony” Susan said.

“Come here baby” Tony said. ( I wonder which of the babies) And with that,he pulled her on his bed and they had another amazing session.

It was Saturday evening and Tony had Invited Susan to his house to plan their court wedding over dinner. He had bought some delicacies from an eatery and a drink they shared together.

The next day after church, Susan stood up from her seat and before everyone, drops of blood trickled  down her skirt. The more embarrassing thing was that soon, clots of blood started falling out.  She was rushed to the hospital…

“It’s  an abortion” the Doctor said.

Tony held her hands by her bedside and tried to comfort her and hoping she’d  be discharged very soon. Tears came down her eyes as she held on tightly to Tony.

As he was about leaving for home while hugging her right on the bed he thought…” Now that I’ve successfully  gotten rid of this, it’s the end of this nonsense called  relationship ”

It’s  always dangerous when SEX is involved!

Who tends to suffer more?
LADIES, BE WISE!!!

  – Bukola Adeolu-‘Dele

Love thrives with understanding.

I HAD SEEN IT. ..

I had seen it before now that a time is coming when Professional Counseling will be highly needed in our country Nigeria. Both paid and voluntary services in counseling will become highly sought after.

I studied counseling in the University as a first choice and not because I just needed to choose a course that was not competitive. As my usual custom is… despite waiting for admission for 7years, I prayed asking God to reveal his desired course for me and I saw it boldly written out! So…. I filled it in as first choice.

Prior to learning and being trained at the University of Ibadan  ( a school I had all my degrees from so far, starting with a diploma to B.Ed, to M.ED and PH.D soon by God’s  grace), I had  counseled people non professionally  but with passion.  THEN as far back as 99, I’d make photocopies of awareness for people hurting to contact me and  I’d paste it on my doors and toilets. SO MUCH WAS AND IS MY DESIRE TO HELP TROUBLED PEOPLE.

Why did I have to type out the above?  You don’t have to wait to be professionally trained to counsel people! A lot more will still die while you’re waiting.

Sure you can get trained,seek for knowledge in books and online but while at that, START COUNSELING RIGHT FROM WHERE YOU ARE.

The news is everywhere of a Doctor who committed suicide recently and then, I saw yet another woman who attempted same today and of course,  many others happened before now, is happening right now and will still happen.

People take their lives for numerous reasons but whatever reason it could be, the point  is that they were driven to a state where their living made no more meaning and could not bare to face the responsibility of living one more second.

This man jumped into the river and some people guessed he might  have been depressed.  Well,  that could be true but what is also true is that you don’t  have to pull  a gun or jump into the river to die by depression. A man can look into the thin air and just give up the ghost due to depression.

A woman few years  ago( where I used to live), having faced serious financial hardship with her husband had to go and plead with her neighbour that she needed food to eat and feed her children. The neighbour  told her she didn’t have. She felt so shattered and I guess it seemed to be her last option.
She asked to use the toilet and that was it!  She gave up the ghost on that seat without an external touch!

I was counseling a young school girl of about 13 years and she told me how she attempted suicide and planned further to kill her mum. Mum is a Single Parent who does not care about her. (long story)

That girl was a time bomb. Momma never knew she could loose not just her own daughter but her own  life too.

Here’s MY CONCLUSION…

FOR all those that are in control of themselves and undertand the dynamics of challenges and then further have a passion and desire to help people,take giant steps forward,showing more love and genuine concern for others.

We handle challenges differently and it’s not exactly the fault of those that are suicidal. Infact, some temperaments are more prone to depression  than the other. Some don’t  just  have the knowledge and the required stamina to keep fighting on.

FOR all those that have issues they know is getting beyond them but are bottling it up for fear of others knowing, please step out and seek help! Don’t assume you can go through this alone. Seek professional counseling.  If you don’t have  money, join a genuine support group but most importantly, don’t stay by yourself.
The thought to jump into the river might just cross your mind one day as you pass by, and if that thought becomes stronger than your inner man, you’re bound to take that leap!

FOR those saying that man is going to hell,  you’d be shocked if he isn’t!

# seek counseling
# seek help
# show love
#givelove

Love thrives with understanding.

MARRIED, PLEASE REAAAD AND HELP FEYI

WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND…

Feyikemi has been married to David for 3 years now and all she can see is a man different from the one she loved when in school. He seems to be totally oblivious of her emotions and even when she cries and expects him to pet her and help wipe her tears, David will say sorry and just continue with his work. This is far from the David that will call her more than 10times when they were courting to know if she was feeling better.

At other times, she has noticed whenever she gets hurt, sick or nursing any sickness, the moment he addresses it, that’s the end! He never bothers to ask the second day if she’s feeling better.

Then when Toju falls sick, he will just wake up, go to work and about his normal duties as if nobody is ill. On the other hand, Feyi keeps checking her babies face and  temperature at almost every 5minutes.

These and more has made Feyi to conclude that her husband is insensitive and that their love is dying.

But is their love really dying?

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If you were to have a group of married men tell you what their issues are with their wives and have the wives too say what their issues are with their husbands, there’s a 70% guarantee that you’d be able to pick the same or similar issues. Why? because MEN have common characters while WOMEN have common characters.

The moment a woman understands the peculiarity of a man and vice versa, that’s the moment they begin to have fulfilment, contentment and peace in their relationships.

It’s striking to note that a lot of people get married without knowing the peculiarities of each gender and so, when these peculiarities begin to show up in marriage, they feel frustrated, tired and overwhelmed and keep wondering why he or she behaves like that and when or if he or she will ever change.

Taking a cue from Dave Burrows, it is what you don’t know that hurts you.

A lack of correct information about the opposite sex will no doubt continually lead to friction and hopes dashed!

It is very easy for you to feel that your perspective should be the same for the other party or that he/she should feel the same way you feel.

A common misconception of young guys when dating as Dave says is thinking that a girl wants to become sexually involved, but what she really wants is relationship and security. So, she becomes sexually involved with the hope of getting this relationship and security.

On the flip side, girls think guys want a relationship but not realising the guys are after them for sex.

It will be a total aberration for anyone to think male and female are the same. The male has the hormone called testosterone which tells him to have a good time when he sees a lady while a lady’s hormone called Estrogen tells her that she might have found the relationship she’s looking for, when she notices a guy is after her.

So, through ignorance, a guy desiring to have a good time of sex meets with a girl desiring relationship and then, the one seeking relationship ends up being empty handed while the one seeking sex gets fulfilled! (Not so for REAL MEN)

A lot of differences abound in the physical and psychological make up of a man and a woman and I know we must have heard this a lot. However, if you don’t care to read further and understand better, the opposite sex and even your own sex, you’d get frustrated in marriage when you see the shoot outs while it’s something you are to accept, creatively Live with while enjoying yourself in marriage.

It tends to play out more in marriage because this is “the place of a man’s rest” He is no longer pursuing you. He has slept with you many times and he is now truly in his element without any mask whatsoever.

I’d really need to appeal to both SINGLES and MARRIED to go out there and buy books that address the differences in gender. It will really help you keep your sanity in marriage.

For example, it’s not new for women to feel their husband is not caring when dealing with a sick child. Men can be more cold but calculating while women tend to be more warm but emotional.  This is just one out of a lot of differences.

Again, we have heard this before I believe but if you don’t go on a search to study more and understand it, you’d be full of surprises in marriage which can constantly make you to expect more than can be given to you and of course when expectations are not met, frustration is inevitable. However, Understanding will solve the riddles, any day and time.

  – Bukola Adeolu-‘Dele
Love Thrives With Understanding.

DISCUSSION

How can Feyikemi handle the above scenario having told her husband several times to show more care and concern at these times but he just doesn’t seem to change yet he ensures his family lacks nothing.

Is the above scenario typical of men or it’s just David being “uncaring’

Do drop your comments.
Your comments are priceless!

ON 5 POINTERS AND KEMEN’S DISQUALIFICATION I WATCH BIG BROTHER. SO….

If there’s anything that draws my attention like a magnet, it is where singles gather which got me initiated into the Big Brother Naija show.

So, once in a while I pop in and I’m not disappointed. I deliberately watch what interests me and then “log” off!

I’m not disappointed because I’ve seen clearly a lot of things as it has to do with relationships and sexuality.

5 Things out of many others I’d like to point out so far…

1.   When money is involved, what you can do and not do IS THE REAL YOU! So, for everyone that has messed up in front of the world, either because it’s a game or not… That’s the real you!

2. I remember clearly a scene where they were all gathered gisting about relationship and Debbie Rise stood up in their midst with a little book ( I guess a bible) and was trying to explain to them some factors that must be evident in a relationship if a guy truly loves you)

She was tackled by everyone and finally she succumbed as she left their midst.

Note! We are living in a world where majority goes with pleasure, fun and not a real relationship major goal which has to do with fulfilment of purpose together in an atmosphere of mutual love and focus.

If you want to STAND up for the Truth, then you had better be sure of the truth you’re standing on so that if 20 out of 21 people are against you, you can still STAND!

Always remember this… that LOVE means different things to different people and your definition of love might just be so different from what that guy or lady believes love to be.

3.   Bisola said she doesn’t mind a cheating husband and that is the lies being sold to us in our generation!

I was tagged in a video where a lady speaking in a car kept pushing the fact that all men cheat and you desiring a man that does not cheat is totally impossible. She went ahead to encourage it in so many words I can’t type out and it and my heart broke. Immediately, I remembered someone’s words who said that if we don’t take our place the wrong people would.

( Can’t wait to start my Vlog)

If someone speaking with a smart phone without waiting to perfect the video and then spill out thrash to mislead millions, how much longer should I wait to save others???

Another actress also recently on social media, gave out “advice” on women condoning a cheating husband and helping him with condoms so he doesn’t bring back diseases to you. Oh my! what a shame and shallow statement. Can’t even dissect that now.

4. In relationships, you can’t afford not be discerning. When you have the spirit of discernment, the true personality and make-up of that persons you love will be revealed to you. God is not a wicked God. You can’t be a woman in love and with a working relationship with God in courtship and not be given access into anything hidden in that man you want to spend the rest of your life with!

If you only discovered after marriage, you might have as well being insensitive to signals.

# Bisola
# marriedTTT
# Ese’s “dream”

5.   Finally as I wrap up this piece, it’s on Kemens disqualification from the Big brother house.

PayPorte, the official sponsor of the show released this…

“Hello Everyone, Based on last night’s footage of @Kemen_fitness making sexual moves on @officialtboss_ which sparked a large outrage, we will like to make our stance known on this matter.
PayPorte is strongly against sexual harassment and perversion and we strongly condemn Kemen’s actions. We believe individuals whether under the influence of alcohol or being sober, should have high morals. We will be taking a decisive action on this. We will be updating you shortly.”

a. Kemen simply did what others have been doing but without the consent of the other party!

In life, you are expected to decide on taking some actions. Either bad or good, if you are forced or it’s without your knowledge , it is seen as an infringement on your rights.  Payporte saw this as an infringement on Tboss right.

So, don’t blame anyone for anything you decided and consented to.

b. The same organisers that provided Alcohol in good quantity still expected you to be in control of yourself.

Hmmm….. Life will present you with anything and everything to destroy or make you. You have the power to choose and decide!

c. Regardless of anything wrong Kemen has done, he was and is a man with a bright future ahead of him like you and I.

However, what he had failed to work on, brought him to public disgrace with an evidence that will be there forever!

He was very hopeful and had at one time gisted with Bally on driving the popular “Keke”

He had a chance to showcase his brand on fitness and trainings to the world and very possibly get contracts from similar brands and possibility of being an Ambassador for them thus making him for life if he leveraged well on it.

However, like the enemy’s usual GAME PLAN,, The devil waited for him ON THAT BIG DAY on on that GLOBAL PLATFORM to excuse him from his greatness and he walked right in!

Even the married TTT and Bisola condemned his act! You’d be shocked at those who will condemn you!

Proverbs 31:3…”Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.”

Kemen has given his strength to fingering Tboss and he got excused. Face it or leave it, regardless of how the BBNaija show is not encouraging on morals ( a contrast from Payportes official release), IT’S STILL NOT BY FORCE TO DISPLAY LOOSNESS!

You can use the show to your advantage and that for me is what really matters.

We might not be living under the same roof with the opposite sex for 3 months with all manner of lewdness but guess what? the world YOU and I live is in lewd.

They have few housemates to contest with now, we have the world to contest with!

*Selah